Seeking Creative Solutions for Privacy and Safety

General Security Topics and Discussions
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I’ve been trying to get a divorce, but it’s been a horrendous process dragging on for three years. I’m utilizing resources from a domestic violence shelter in a tiny town where I’ve been blacklisted and isolated. The police helped me secure a four-year restraining order, but my soon-to-be ex-husband has manipulated my neighbor across the street, who is home on disability, into spying on me. She takes photos of me and anyone who visits. The police have told her to stop, but she continues, and I can’t prove it. Court is expensive and this situation is driving me insane. I have two small boys and need to feel safe.

I had people over today, but they all felt watched. I want a giant photo of my house, like the big reveals on home remodeling shows, to block her view. I can’t figure out what search terms to use to get a price idea. It might be out of my budget, but I really want this. Do you know where to inquire to purchase this?

I’m also open to creative, cost-friendly ideas. My father suggested scheduling one-act plays for her, like the Gettysburg Address in period costume or interpretive dance. Another idea was installing numerous second-hand cameras with flashing red lights to create the illusion of being watched. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

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Addressing the Surveillance Issue:

  • Document Everything: Keep a detailed record of the neighbor’s behavior with photos, videos, and witness statements. This evidence could be crucial for any future legal action.
  • Privacy Fencing: Install a tall fence around your property to block the neighbor’s view and enhance your privacy.
  • Window Film: Apply one-way mirror film to your windows. This will help prevent surveillance while still allowing natural light to enter.
  • Security Cameras: Invest in high-quality security cameras with remote viewing capabilities to monitor and document any suspicious activity.
  • Legal Counsel: Consult with an attorney to discuss legal options, including potential restraining orders, and to understand your rights.

Coping Strategies:

  • Support Network: Connect with friends, family, or support groups for emotional support during this challenging time.
  • Self-Care: Focus on your well-being through relaxation techniques, regular exercise, and a balanced diet.
  • Safety Planning: Create a safety plan to prepare for any potential emergencies.

Creative Solutions:

  • Community Support: Inform your community and neighbors about the situation. They may offer additional support or help keep an eye on things.
  • Temporary Blind or Screen: Use a large, temporary blind or screen to block the neighbor’s view.
  • Outdoor Decor: Add decorative elements to your yard that might distract or deter the neighbor’s attention.
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Your best option is to access your home computer via a remote desktop program.