This weekend, we had someone do two very hard kicks at our front door, which ended up splintering the door frame. It happened just a few minutes after we turned off our living room lights, and the front door is visible through the window near it.
We’re renting this place, so we hadn’t installed any cameras or doorbell systems before. Since this happened, though, we’ve had the door replaced, set up some cameras, and got a home security system installed.
What I can’t figure out is why they didn’t try to come inside. The door would have given in after a couple of kicks. Why did they just leave? Any thoughts on this? Also, any suggestions on what else we should do to feel safer?
Steve4 said:
Maybe something scared them off, or they were trying to send a message. Have you had any recent arguments with anyone?
No, we pretty much keep to ourselves. We’ve lived here for 5 years and this is the first time something like this has happened. I’m hoping this wasn’t because we’re a gay couple.
Steve4 said:
Maybe something scared them off, or they were trying to send a message. Have you had any recent arguments with anyone?
No, we pretty much keep to ourselves. We’ve lived here for 5 years and this is the first time something like this has happened. I’m hoping this wasn’t because we’re a gay couple.
It’s possible they got scared and ran. Seems like they didn’t really want to come in.
Steve4 said:
Maybe something scared them off, or they were trying to send a message. Have you had any recent arguments with anyone?
No, we pretty much keep to ourselves. We’ve lived here for 5 years and this is the first time something like this has happened. I’m hoping this wasn’t because we’re a gay couple.
Do you have a pride flag or something similar outside? It could be ideologically motivated.
Mila said: Steve4 said:
Maybe something scared them off, or they were trying to send a message. Have you had any recent arguments with anyone?
No, we pretty much keep to ourselves. We’ve lived here for 5 years and this is the first time something like this has happened. I’m hoping this wasn’t because we’re a gay couple.
Do you have a pride flag or something similar outside? It could be ideologically motivated.
Lila said: Mila said: Steve4 said:
Maybe something scared them off, or they were trying to send a message. Have you had any recent arguments with anyone?
No, we pretty much keep to ourselves. We’ve lived here for 5 years and this is the first time something like this has happened. I’m hoping this wasn’t because we’re a gay couple.
Do you have a pride flag or something similar outside? It could be ideologically motivated.
No, nothing like that.
I had a client who went through something similar. Teenagers kept kicking her door. We caught them on CCTV. They thought it was funny and kept doing it to impress each other. The kicks were strong enough to almost break her door too. Some people can be incredibly dumb.
Mila said: Steve4 said:
Maybe something scared them off, or they were trying to send a message. Have you had any recent arguments with anyone?
No, we pretty much keep to ourselves. We’ve lived here for 5 years and this is the first time something like this has happened. I’m hoping this wasn’t because we’re a gay couple.
Do you have a pride flag or something similar outside? It could be ideologically motivated.
Lila said: Mila said: Steve4 said:
Maybe something scared them off, or they were trying to send a message. Have you had any recent arguments with anyone?
No, we pretty much keep to ourselves. We’ve lived here for 5 years and this is the first time something like this has happened. I’m hoping this wasn’t because we’re a gay couple.
Do you have a pride flag or something similar outside? It could be ideologically motivated.
Brad said: Lila said: Mila said: Steve4 said:
Maybe something scared them off, or they were trying to send a message. Have you had any recent arguments with anyone?
No, we pretty much keep to ourselves. We’ve lived here for 5 years and this is the first time something like this has happened. I’m hoping this wasn’t because we’re a gay couple.
Do you have a pride flag or something similar outside? It could be ideologically motivated.
You’re spreading unnecessary fear.
What do you mean by that?
Fear, uncertainty, and doubt (FUD). You’re making people worry over stuff that might not be happening.
No, we pretty much keep to ourselves. We’ve lived here for 5 years and this is the first time something like this has happened. I’m hoping this wasn’t because we’re a gay couple.
Do you have a pride flag or something similar outside? It could be ideologically motivated.
You’re spreading unnecessary fear.
What do you mean by that?
Fear, uncertainty, and doubt (FUD). You’re making people worry over stuff that might not be happening.
I work with home security every day. People get targeted for many reasons, whether it’s a flag or some other visible sign of identity. I’ve seen it happen multiple times. It doesn’t matter if we wish the world were better, some people just act horribly for the pettiest reasons.
No, we pretty much keep to ourselves. We’ve lived here for 5 years and this is the first time something like this has happened. I’m hoping this wasn’t because we’re a gay couple.
Do you have a pride flag or something similar outside? It could be ideologically motivated.
You’re spreading unnecessary fear.
What do you mean by that?
Fear, uncertainty, and doubt (FUD). You’re making people worry over stuff that might not be happening.
I work with home security every day. People get targeted for many reasons, whether it’s a flag or some other visible sign of identity. I’ve seen it happen multiple times. It doesn’t matter if we wish the world were better, some people just act horribly for the pettiest reasons.
I understand people experience harassment, but I don’t think we’re at the point where home invasions are happening over a pride flag or something similar. Of course, I’m aware of the risks, but I don’t think this is what’s going on right now.
No, we pretty much keep to ourselves. We’ve lived here for 5 years and this is the first time something like this has happened. I’m hoping this wasn’t because we’re a gay couple.
Do you have a pride flag or something similar outside? It could be ideologically motivated.
You’re spreading unnecessary fear.
What do you mean by that?
Fear, uncertainty, and doubt (FUD). You’re making people worry over stuff that might not be happening.
I work with home security every day. People get targeted for many reasons, whether it’s a flag or some other visible sign of identity. I’ve seen it happen multiple times. It doesn’t matter if we wish the world were better, some people just act horribly for the pettiest reasons.
I understand people experience harassment, but I don’t think we’re at the point where home invasions are happening over a pride flag or something similar. Of course, I’m aware of the risks, but I don’t think this is what’s going on right now.
It’s not always about an actual invasion. Sometimes it’s about intimidation, or vandalism with no clear purpose like theft. I see it all the time when people suspect they’re targeted. It’s hard to dismiss their feelings when there’s no other obvious reason.
No, we pretty much keep to ourselves. We’ve lived here for 5 years and this is the first time something like this has happened. I’m hoping this wasn’t because we’re a gay couple.
Do you have a pride flag or something similar outside? It could be ideologically motivated.
You’re spreading unnecessary fear.
What do you mean by that?
Fear, uncertainty, and doubt (FUD). You’re making people worry over stuff that might not be happening.
I work with home security every day. People get targeted for many reasons, whether it’s a flag or some other visible sign of identity. I’ve seen it happen multiple times. It doesn’t matter if we wish the world were better, some people just act horribly for the pettiest reasons.
I understand people experience harassment, but I don’t think we’re at the point where home invasions are happening over a pride flag or something similar. Of course, I’m aware of the risks, but I don’t think this is what’s going on right now.
It’s not always about an actual invasion. Sometimes it’s about intimidation, or vandalism with no clear purpose like theft. I see it all the time when people suspect they’re targeted. It’s hard to dismiss their feelings when there’s no other obvious reason.
Have you come across any actual cases where violence followed because of a pride flag?
No, we pretty much keep to ourselves. We’ve lived here for 5 years and this is the first time something like this has happened. I’m hoping this wasn’t because we’re a gay couple.
Do you have a pride flag or something similar outside? It could be ideologically motivated.
You’re spreading unnecessary fear.
What do you mean by that?
Fear, uncertainty, and doubt (FUD). You’re making people worry over stuff that might not be happening.
I work with home security every day. People get targeted for many reasons, whether it’s a flag or some other visible sign of identity. I’ve seen it happen multiple times. It doesn’t matter if we wish the world were better, some people just act horribly for the pettiest reasons.
I understand people experience harassment, but I don’t think we’re at the point where home invasions are happening over a pride flag or something similar. Of course, I’m aware of the risks, but I don’t think this is what’s going on right now.
It’s not always about an actual invasion. Sometimes it’s about intimidation, or vandalism with no clear purpose like theft. I see it all the time when people suspect they’re targeted. It’s hard to dismiss their feelings when there’s no other obvious reason.
Have you come across any actual cases where violence followed because of a pride flag?
I think it’s important to stay grounded in the facts, but I also get the point about people feeling targeted even if it’s not always easy to prove.
Since you’re renting, maybe ask your landlord if you can put up a security screen door. It makes break-ins harder and also lets you answer the door while still being behind a locked barrier.
This weekend, we had someone do two very hard kicks at our front door, which ended up splintering the door frame. It happened just a few minutes after we turned off our living room lights, and the front door is visible through the window near it.
We’re renting this place, so we hadn’t installed any cameras or doorbell systems before. Since this happened, though, we’ve had the door replaced, set up some cameras, and got a home security system installed.
What I can’t figure out is why they didn’t try to come inside. The door would have given in after a couple of kicks. Why did they just leave? Any thoughts on this? Also, any suggestions on what else we should do to feel safer?
I had a house in a gated community in the 90s. After I moved in, my neighbors told me the house on the other side of the gate got broken into. Apparently, the people were looking for the previous renters of my place who were involved in some kind of shady business. Once they realized they had the wrong house, they left. Maybe something similar happened to you, a case of mistaken identity.